Our dear TDC readers, I must start this post with an apology, I’m sorry for not writing anything in almost two months, but after the last post the truth is that I had no desire to talk about anything dating related or do much at all.


Now that I’m finally feeling like more of my usual self (not all the way there but close) it’s time to pick up where I left off and not just keep going, but moving on with new realizations and determinations for myself.

One of the most important things I’ve come to understand is that I am enough; my sparkle, my imperfections, my zest for life and my desire to live a full and meaningful one, and my shear being are all rolled into the body and mind that I call my own.

To the friends and family who may read this and say, “I’ve told her that from the beginning,” I thank you for it, your words and actions weren’t lost on me, but this understanding was one I had to come to on my own terms and in my own time.

And, to the ones still trying to come to that realization, don’t rush, your acceptance of knowing you are enough will come to you at the right moment. In other words, learning to love yourself first is the most important love you will ever have in this world.

I’ve been a fan of He’s Just Not That Into You since I first saw it and the ending monologue has some great truths in it, especially when it relates to moving on, being yourself and never giving up hope, which I think we can all admit isn’t always easy to do.

For myself, when it comes to moving on here’s where I stand:

Even with all the progress I’ve made, during the rare moments when my world is quiet I sometimes catch myself getting lost in a memory.

I believe he’s not sorry for what he did, but accepting that I’ll never get an apology is tough.

Tied to that is also living with the realization that the relationship was completely one-sided and I meant little if nothing to him at all.

I am stronger than I thought I was.

My shattered heart isn’t quite as shattered anymore.

Although I’m afraid, it’s not stopping me from getting to know someone new.

We all move on at our own pace, don’t set your moving on clock based on someone else’s timeline. What works for me might not work for you and vice versa.

Just remember, love yourself first, share that love with the world and the Universe will take care of the rest.

xo alyssa & rachel

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